Monday, July 25, 2011

WHAT A ROLLER COASTER RIDE…

Weeeeeee! I remember those days so well. I was one of those who loved to go on rides and I did. The rule was “if I fit then that ride I hit”! Many were different Roller Coasters. Living in Brooklyn my whole life we had one of the most famous Roller Coaster in the world, “The Cyclone” in Coney Island.
If you study a Roller Coaster you will find that life is very similar to the ride itself. There are hills and bumps; at times it seems faster than other times. Some of the highs are very high and real scary and then you go along and when you least expect it you plunge into the unknown.
Sound familiar? This can be any of our lives and any time. Throughout life we have our ups and downs, with a few bumps thrown in for good measure. But rather than keep us down we have to keep the ride moving forward because soon the car will climb once again and so will our situations.
Believe me I know when things seem to be the darkest and there seems as if there is no hope, it is hard to keep moving forward. Those are the times when as the song says “you want to roll yourself up in a big ball and die”! “That’s Life”!
True there are times you could feel this way, I have been in that spot often enough to know it. What do you do?
You hang on, you believe and believe hard. There are highs ahead. There is light at the end of that tunnel. The key thing is you have to be here to reap the benefits. You have to not give up, not give up on yourself, on life, on the reality that things can and do change!
You have to believe in yourself even though people have lost faith in you, especially when people have lost faith in you. When those who you love and love you the most have reached their end and have given up on you that is no easy thing to face. That is a low of low.
Here are your greatest support people and they can’t hide their hurt, frustration, fear and overall tiredness. Their lack of belief in you.
This is when it is most important for you to hang on the most. This is where it is the hardest, not only have you given up on you but those who supported you when times were the worse seem to have quit. The pain becomes so bad, the loneliness overcomes you, and the emptiness drains your everything. This is when all you want to do is eat your way through the house….NO, this is when you have to hang on and do the opposite.
You have to fight, try different things, you must survive. We must survive!
There is no answer in the food we stuff in our mouth. The only thing that food does is have the same effect as my Grandson’s Binky (Pacifier). That binky amazes me, it is just a nipple with no reward coming through it yet it quits him down, puts him to sleep and makes him feel good!
Well the food we eat may taste okay for the moment but the overall harm it does…ask yourself. Is it worth it?
We all have an untapped strength inside of us. We really can be stronger than we think we are.
Each and every one of us have to pick our heads up high, throw our shoulders back, deep breath, and say these simple words…”I AM WORTH IT”!
You are worth it! You are worth every try out there. As long as you have breath inside of you, then you are worth the effort. When those who are the ones nearest to us get tired and lose faith in us, we need to be worth it even more.
My brother and sister in battle, no one knows pain we go through, no one knows the Roller Coaster Ride we are on individually, no, not until they ride in our car or walk in our shoes.
There is no room in your shoes for anyone else, walk forward, move on and enjoy the ride because you are worth it!
Really you are!

Good Luck and have a great day…
Love,
Mike

26 comments:

Anonymous said...

Roller Coaster .. my life sure has been one lately .. the many ups and downs of emotions.. but im still here and that is what is important ../. i know as long as i find a drop of that inner strength in me and i keep telling myself its gonna be ok then i know that there is some sunshine at the end of that tunnel....i hold on to the hope and the dream that i can make it in no matter what i try to do.....Many times in the last weeks i felt like throwing in the towel and just saying i cant be bothered anymore... but something inside me keeps me going... something inside my head makes me believe its not all bad and those are the thoughts that i hold onto...So all i can say is keep holding on even if its a tiny thought in your head cause that is what keeps me going .....
Huggs and love to you Mike
Carol

Kari said...

Mike great to read a new blog and as always you hit right at home. My lofe to has been a Roller Coaster and the hardest part is those of my loved ones who have given up on me. It makes it that more easier for me to give up on myself. You are right I am worth it and I have to believe that. Thanks Mike for this and all your sharing.
Kari

Anonymous said...

How do I hang on when there is nothing to hang on for.
TL

Anonymous said...

Michael
I love this blog, my life is a roller coaster. Now I know you too and I suppose others have the same problem.
I need support and my husband is fed up.
I still have to get myself in order. Reading this blog helps. thank you
Connie

Anonymous said...

My life has been a roller coaster ride and at times I felt I would never get off but some how I do. Life is interesting and at times it seems as if it is impossible but things always get better.
thanks Mike for this blog and so many others
Sadie

Anonymous said...

Oh Mike when I read 'there is no room in my shoes' you can not inagine how you opened my eyes. You're right so right no one is going to go through the battle for me. it has to be me! Thank you so much
Herman

Anonymous said...

Oh Mike when I read 'there is no room in my shoes' you can not inagine how you opened my eyes. You're right so right no one is going to go through the battle for me. it has to be me! Thank you so much
Herman

Kathy said...

Wonderful post Mike. Possibly my favorite. When you talk about how painful it is when others give up on us, something I have learned over the years of dealing with this disorder is to see if from the other perspective. How would I feel if someone I cared for repeatedly did something I did not like over and over again for years and years despite the fact that they knew it bothered me. Add to that how would I feel if the thing they were doing was life threatening. There is never an excuse for abusive behavior, bullying or cruelty, but I can understand my loved one's frustration because no one is more frustrated at my failings than I am. But I know I've also learned from all the times I had to pick myself back up. I say I have a master's degree in starting over :) I heard the other day that if you think you're headed down, then that's where you will go. If you want to change the way you're going, you have to change the way you're thinking. I also agree that no one knows the pain we go through the way we do. I could never explain it to someone. Remember we ARE your brothers and sisters in battle, Mike. We all need each other, and we need you and care about you. We're here for you and for each other, and I am so grateful for that.

Anonymous said...

Kathy I too agree with Mike but you Kathy put it in the exact words. Thank you both for making some sense of my life.
Millie Wilson Ks.

Helen Ford said...

Good Good Great!!
I love this blog and some of these comments, love it! It means so much to me. Right blog at the right moment, thank you Michael so much!
Helen Ford

Anonymous said...

Mike
Love the rokker coaster blog and also the comments we all make are very helpful to me. I have such a rough time at bouncing back.
Wendy

Anonymous said...

What happens when the ride gets to rough???

Jill Weber said...

Michael
For years now you talk about noot giving up and looking for the silver lining in it all. I have gained fifty pounds in the past three years what hope do I have?
Jill form Albany

Anonymous said...

I really enjoy coming here and I enjoy what I read on the blog and the comments. I struggle so much with my weight. It is eventually going to kill me. Not what I want but cant seem to gain control,. Any suggestions?
Eddie

Kathy said...

I felt moved today by the posts from people who feel they cannot break free from overeating and it will kill them. I found out today a dear friend died from cancer. I know better than anyone that feeling of inability to overcome. But I look at my disease and realize the solution lies with me. My friend did not have that choice. Check out the American Society of Addiction Medicine's latest definition of addiction. I post a lot of things here that are not original to me but have helped me and I hope help others. Such as the fact that we need to demystify the emptiness that we run away from
night after night. And when we are lost and have spent years separated from who we are, threats of failed hearts or joints don't move us. Once food becomes synonymous with goodness or fulfillment, we cannot help but choose it no matter how high the stakes are. The saying goes, "Get busy living or get busy dying." Any advice? Try everything that is healthy and positive to overcome this disorder. Because I believe that when we stop struggling, pushing, manipulating and actually relax and listen to the truth, something bigger than our fear will catch us. I KNOW that each and every one of us possess the capability of breaking free and getting about the business of living. Don't ever give up.

Anonymous said...

Thank you Kathy! You and Mike make some team
Paula

Anonymous said...

Michael your blog helps so much,

Anonymous said...

I live in the mid-west and Irene had no need to worry about its effect, yet I used the situation to eat all weekend. My life is a roller coaster and all I am doing now is falling.
Brenda

Anonymous said...

Even when you have been at your lowest people around you learn somthing from you...you give energy to others even when you're weak... you're a blessing to have u be part of our lives...you have great courage and best of all you have a great soul....you're in our hearts as always...a blessing to know you and to care for u....
With open arms,
A.G. :))

Anonymous said...

Michael how are you? This has done it for me after reading it a month ago I began to make changes and now instead of over eating when I am angry, upsrt rtc. I use a Binky. I went and got my binky it doesent help but lot less calories
thanks mike lost 35 pounds in 6 weeks
Laura

Anonymous said...

Roller Coaster? How about a Loop de Loop.
A Roller Coaster would be easy but of cause Mikey Boy You goy me looking at it
Thanks
Need to make changes
Rob NJ

MIKE HEBRANKO said...

HEY EVERYBODY I AM MISSING YOU ALL. I HAVE BEEN RECALLED AND TAKEN OFF THE MARKEY FOR REPAIRS. IN OTHER WORDS I HAVE BEEN HOSPITALIZED FOR ALMOST 6 WEEKS NOW. THE HOSPITAL PROVIDES LIMITED WiFi THEREFORE I CAN NOT POST ANY NEW BLOGS BUT I CAN GET TO THIS PAGE. BESIDES THE FIRS 5 WEEKS MY MIND WAS INTO BLOGGIN BUT THE BODY WAS GVING ME A HARD TIME.
I AM BEGINING TO COME TO THE END OF THIS PARTICULAR JOURNEY WITH KNOWLEDGE AND BATTLE SCARS. I AM A GRATEFUL HUMAN BEING AND EVERYDAY I AM ALIVE IT IS A GIFT AND ONE THAT I USE TO ITS FULLEST.
I HOPE ALL ARE WELL OR AT THE VERY LEAST STILL FIGHTING NOT TO GIVE UP.
REMEMBER YOU ARE NUMBER ONE AND THAT YOU ARE WORTH EVERY EFFORT.
TAKE CARE WE WILL CONNECT AGAIN SOON.
lOVE
mIKE

Kathy said...

We all care so much about you, Mike. Hope you will be home soon. Thanks for connecting with us. All your cyber friends will be praying for you.

Anonymous said...

Love you Mike and all we wish is your recovery and getting back home

Love you
Carol

Anonymous said...

Wow Mike hope this reppair service is going well for you. I knew something was wrong and I missed your blogging. I hope you get back soon. We need you.
Blaire T.

MIKE HEBRANKO said...

WELL BELIEVE IT OR NOT I AM STILL OUT FOR REPAIRS. THERE IS A LOT OF ME TO REPAIR, WHEN I AM DONE I MIGH BE THE GUY WHO LOOKS LIKE "BRAD PITT". LOL: I CAN BARELY BELIEVE IT BUT GOD,NATURE,HOPE,INNER POWER, LOTS OF SUPPORT IT ALL ADDS UPS AND WHEN THEY JOIN FORCES "MIRACLES" HAPPEN. WELL I AM STILL IN THE HOSPITAL AND IT PROVENTS ME FROM WRITING A NEW FRONT PAGE???
I THINK OF ALL OR YOU ALL THE TIME, EVERY MINUTE? NO, I WOULD BE LYING BUT I DID THINK OF ALL MY FRIENDS AT SOME OF THE IMPORTANT MOMENTS.
THANK YOU FOR YOUR THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS. I CAN READ THE EMAILS AT MICHAELHEBRANKO@YAHOO.COM
WE ARE A KIND OF FAMILY A UNIT FRIENDS. GOD BLESS YOU ALL OR WHATEVER YOUR BELIEF IS POWER TO YOU JUST BELIEVE IT IS A START!!!
LOVE TO ALL
MIKE