The dictionary defines cheating as follows: to defraud; swindle; to deceive; to elude; to violate rules or regulations; a person who acts dishonestly.
Wow, after all that we are then suppose to feel good about ourselves and get back on track and do the things that we need to do to live a healthier and fuller life.
Think about it? Here we are doing are best, trying are hardest, whether it is to eat right, stay sober, be positive or just live a healthier life style and then it happens! A bad moment, a bad choice, a bad day, whatever the reasons may be, you may be aware of the reason or you may not, it just happens!
You “Cheat”, then you come to your senses and cannot help but look at what has happened, what you have done and you think to yourself...”I cheated”!
Then the tapes begin to play in your head. Then by definition you are a fraud, swindler, you violate the rules, you are dishonest! You cannot help but hear these tapes in your head. You have been raised your whole life, to know that cheaters are low lives.
Now after that and a host of other guilty feelings, you are suppose to go forward, feel good about yourself, get back “on the wagon” and eat healthy and do healthy things for our self.
Can it be done? It can! Is it easy? No! Must it happen? You bet!
Who else but “you” is going to do it? If not now, when? Are you going to let another day go by? Do more damage to your body, your mind, your heart?
You cannot wait for someone else to make you feel good (it might happen, but there are no guarantees). There is an expression that goes “don’t wait for some one to tell you to wash your face…because then you just might look better than them.”
That is a harsh statement and does not play true in all cases but the point is we cannot wait for others to make us feel good about ourselves.
We have to dig deep inside and find the strength, realize the goodness, the worth inside of our self and begin once again.
It can be difficult, especially when you might have people around that knock you every chance they get, that may have lost faith in you, or are just fed up with you and all the years of you have struggled already.
These are the times when you need to try your hardest.
When that hill becomes a mountain, yet either way, it still needs to be climbed, one more time. You and you alone have to find the strength to take those first steps.
You have to tap into that inner worth, the inner need to succeed, the desire to survive, you have to know that you are worth it!
Life at times is not easy and often the bounce back from “nowhere” seems impossible, but who else but you deserves to be happy.
Do not act has if you might not deserve to be happy, you do!
You are a beautiful creation and deserve to live your life to its fullest.
Therefore, you, I and the rest of us have to fight!
Fight for our well-being, fight no matter what our demons are, no matter how dark they may be. We have to do what we need to do to make it!
If we need help and cannot find it here then we have to look for it there.
We need to do, what we need to do! As hard as it may seem, as alone as we may feel, we need to be able to look inside ourselves first!
We have power! We are strong! We made it this far and we can make it to the top of that mountain.
My friends who are in struggles of all kinds…I say this to you. Hang in there!
Be a little easy on yourself; give a little hug to yourself.
Never quit, never give up!
You are special….very special and you are worth it!
Your Brother in Battle